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The Do's and Don'ts of Oral Sex: Tips

A Guide to Fun, Safety, and Communication – by HappyToys.nl

Oral sex is an intimate form of pleasure that revolves around trust, communication, and mutual enjoyment. At HappyToys.nl, we believe that good sex starts with openness, respect, and a little knowledge. That's why in this blog post, we're sharing the most important do's and don'ts of oral sex —whether you're giving or receiving.


✅ The Do's of Oral Sex

1. Talk openly with your partner

Good sex starts with communication. Ask your partner what they like, or don't like. No taboos, just trust.

2. Pay attention to hygiene

Clean and fresh not only feels more pleasant, it also increases comfort and relaxation. A shower beforehand can even be part of the foreplay.

3. Use your hands

Use your hands in conjunction with your mouth to make things more exciting. This way, you can vary the pace, pressure, and sensation.

4. Work with rhythm and structure

Start slowly. Build tension. Vary your pace and techniques, and pay attention to your partner's reaction.

5. Use lubricant or oral gels

A tasty lubricant, specifically designed for oral sex, can make it more enjoyable and playful. HappyToys.nl offers various flavors and formulas.

6. Don't be afraid of toys

Vibrators, cock rings, or even tongue vibrators can be a delightful addition. Use toys to enhance your play.


❌ The Don'ts of Oral Sex

1. No pressure or obligation

Oral sex isn't mandatory. It should always be consensual. If either of you is unsure, stop or choose something else that feels good.

2. No teeth!

Unless explicitly stated otherwise, avoid using your teeth. Most people find this sensitive or even painful.

3. Don't ignore what your partner shows

If your partner gives you signals (sighs, pulling away, silence), don't ignore them. Pay attention to body language or ask how it feels.

4. No rush

Oral sex isn't a sprint. Take your time and let foreplay do its work. Rushing diminishes the pleasure.

5. No shame or judgment

Everyone has different preferences. Laughing, giggling, or reacting disapprovingly can completely ruin the atmosphere. Respect each other's wishes and boundaries.


💡 Bonus: Tips from HappyToys.nl

  • Use oral sex toys like the Satisfyer Dual Pleasure or a tongue vibrator for added sensations.

  • Try a blindfold or bondage kit together to stimulate other senses.

  • Discover our delicious lubricants in strawberry, vanilla, or cola for a playful twist.

  • Don't forget safe sex during casual contact – with dental dams or tasteful condoms.


Pleasure = Trust + Communication + Play

Whether you're experienced or just starting to explore, oral sex is all about pleasure, attention, and connection. By following these do's and don'ts , you'll make the experience more enjoyable and intimate for both of you.

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