Okay, let's set the scene – imagine you were watching some erotic films recently and a scene in the related videos caught your attention… a femme with an energetic attitude, firmly yet playfully taking the reins with a grin. They move deliberately around their bound partner, choosing their words carefully with an air of powerful presence, playfully stroking their ass before spanking, and soon pulling out a strap-on as their partner writhes with excitement and pleasure. They're both loving it… and you've just unlocked a new kink – your desire to explore your dominatrix side. How can you become a FemDom too?
This orgasm-inducing experience won't leave you hanging—you'll be craving the idea of exploring FemDom! But how do you start exploring and find what you (and your partner) enjoy? How do you create a scene and ensure everything goes smoothly and safely? Is there such a thing as a FemDom guide?! Let's start with the basics... what does FemDom mean? And we'll give you solid advice and tips to create the FemDom scene of your kinky dreams.
How to Become a FemDom
First, what is FemDom and what does it entail? FemDom is an acronym for Female Domination, although any femme can be a FemDom and any gender can be submissive! Despite the common portrayal of a "rough latex Domme," the actions and practices involved are as varied as the couples who explore it, and FemDom can also incorporate sensual and nurturing elements.
Some FemDoms and their submissive partners enjoy the physical acts of Domination and submission (pegging, spanking, bondage), while others enjoy the emotional or mental aspects of power play (submission, power play, or, for some, even consensual humiliation). Most people who enjoy FemDom or any other type of BDSM play enjoy both—after all, the mind-body connection is immense! Physical and mental elements of play can be explored through any of the above "actions" or experiences, and can also include chastity, orgasm denial, or orgasm "torture" (multiple orgasms!).
Once you realize that you naturally want to dominate (or be dominated) consensually, it's up to you and your partner to explore the types of activities that are most arousing to you.
You can explore a kinky Yes/No/Maybe list to explore together what turns you both on and figure out your boundaries. Do you want to be served or be a servant? Do you prefer to play with punishment or denial and teasing? Do you enjoy spankings, but is any humiliation a no-go? Or are playful "nasty words" truly a turn-on for you? Do you like the idea of being pinned down with a strap-on or a butt plug? Or would you rather be tied up and made to cum?
