Sound during sex: what do women think?

Some men remain silent during sex, while others enjoy it loudly. There are also men who aren't sure whether to make noise or not. But how does this affect a woman? Does she find your sounds attractive or a turn-off? Together with the friends at Happytoys, we're happy to share some tips.

Making noise in bed is a sensitive issue. This applies to women as well as men. Some men prefer a woman who can be heard four doors down, while another prefers a woman who moans softly. So, it's tricky. Personally, and I think I speak for many women here, I really appreciate it when a man makes noise in bed. I love nothing more than hearing a man hold his breath for a moment, then let out a sigh of excitement. Moaning when you do something just right gives us women a wonderful, confident feeling. Screaming or talking too much dirty, however, can quickly make things awkward.

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Ask yourself: do you like it when a woman makes noise in bed? The answer is probably yes. We love being complimented on our hard work. Is it really any different for women?

Should men make noise during sex?

Fabienne: Yes, I'd love to. It's nice to hear that it's enjoyable and that you're doing something right. Creepy breathing down my neck is a step too far, but being completely silent during sex is just plain boring. Let them know you're enjoying yourself! That's nice for us too.

Renee: There's nothing more awkward than silent sex, so yes, do what you can't resist. Tiger noises and first names are fine, but it's nice to hear that the other person is (also) enjoying themselves. I think a little panting and moaning is welcome from both parties, as long as it doesn't become a competition.

Sanne: Men should definitely make noise during sex. Just as men find it hot when women let you know they're enjoying themselves, women also enjoy it when a man lets you know he's enjoying himself. Loud screaming isn't necessary, but soft moans are fine, in my opinion.

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Now, the goal isn't to start making sounds that don't fit the moment. Go with the flow; you shouldn't force it. At moments you find most pleasurable, express your pleasure with your body and breathing. Be present in the moment and don't be ashamed at all. You'll find that when you let go of any barriers, it will come naturally.

Panel: What's the most pleasurable sound a man can make?

Sanne: Soft moans. Saying naughty things every now and then is also fine. I'll leave the details out.

Fabienne: The same as what men find arousing in women. Moaning, light panting—any sound that can express pleasure in a non-exaggerated way is pleasant to hear. Dirty talk is allowed, but not too much, or it becomes awkward. And it's best to avoid calling names altogether.

Wait for a woman's response

During sex, we communicate with both our bodies and our mouths, so wait for a reaction. You don't want her to feel uncomfortable with your wild Tarzan sounds. You want her to feel encouraged. When you start breathing more heavily or hold your breath and release it at peak moments, she will respond with her body or sounds. This way, you'll know if she likes it when you do this.

Panel – What's the worst sound a man has ever made during sex?

Sanne: "I hate having someone breathe on my neck. But I once had a guy start breathing on my neck with his lips against my skin. It made a really awkward sound. And calling my name is definitely not necessary."

Fabienne: The worst sound? No sound! I've never had sex with anyone who made truly awful noises, but no sound at all is such a deal-breaker. You have no idea if it's pleasurable, if you're doing it right or wrong, or anything like that. Besides, if you do make any noise yourself, it sounds even louder. It shouldn't become a moaning contest, but some kind of sound is absolutely essential.

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Dirty talk: this is a tricky subject, because some women enjoy it and others don't. It's a very personal thing, so it's definitely not recommended for the first time. It can often make women feel very uncomfortable, especially if they don't know you well yet. You might just meet that one woman who immediately finds it very arousing, but are you willing to take that chance? If all the signs point to it (or if she initiates it), you can certainly go for it, but we recommend avoiding dirty talk initially.