Name: The CAT (Coital Alignment Technique)

Difficulty: Vanilla

Intensity: Mild

Speed: Slow

Perfect for: Clitoral stimulation, small penis, large penis, marathons, beginners, romance, tantra

How to perform the CAT position

Start in the missionary position. Lie on your back on the bed with your legs slightly spread and your partner between your knees. In the traditional missionary position, your partner supports themselves on their hands, with their upper body raised and pelvis directed forward. This is the perfect starting position for penetration... but we quickly change position to get into the CAT position.

To get into the CAT position, have your partner support themselves on their forearms, elbows, thighs, and upper legs, leaning lightly on your body while distributing their weight evenly and relaxing their muscles. Your partner should maintain as much physical contact with you as is comfortable without crushing you. Without losing contact (external or internal), your partner slides their body upwards towards your head and body, with their jaw resting just on your shoulder, bringing their pelvis into alignment with yours and keeping their hips at a downward angle, so the base of the penis rubs against your clitoris.

This position invites some friction, so don't forget the lubricant!

Once you've found the right angle, it's time to "pump" this position. Well, not literally pump... because the key to this position is slow, sensual, gentle, and subtle rocking movements rather than thrusts. It might feel a little awkward at first, but believe me... with a little practice, this technique is absolutely worth it. With delicate and controlled movements, rocking up and down rather than back and forth, you should feel your partner's shaft rubbing against your clitoris, giving you the pleasure you need to achieve a powerful, sex-fueled orgasm.

Their penis won't be fully inside you; a good portion of it should be pointing downwards and pressing against your clitoris... but try to keep at least the tip in while you rock your own hips in sync with theirs, allowing the first two inches of your vagina to move a little too.

Repeat this rocking motion, gently pressing your pelvis and hips together, moving in sync, while maintaining constant pleasure and stimulation. You'll quickly find the perfect stance to enjoy the sensations together.

For maximum clitoral stimulation, it's important to tilt your hips slightly upwards to meet your partner's, and keep your legs as straight and close together as possible, or even wrap them around your partner's, so your clitoris is stimulated as precisely as possible. If you spread your legs completely, your hips won't be able to arch upwards in the same way, and you'll miss the added sensation of their pelvis and penis pressing against your labia... the ultimate pleasure boost.

Remember that, because this position focuses on slow, subtle rocking movements, your partner won't get the deep penetration they might desire. Often, the 'CAT' position is perfect for achieving a clitoral orgasm first, after which your partner might need a position with more thrust and power. But your orgasm is absolutely important (if not the most important thing), so go for it!

Make the most of your intimate moments together and promise to return the favor after they've brought you back from the moon.

Intensify the sexual experience

In this position, your legs should be lying straight on the bed. However, you can gently wrap your legs around your partner, allowing you to move your hips and experience extra intimacy and sensation. If they gently push down while you lightly push your hips up, keeping you in sync, the higher angle they get, putting more pressure on your clitoris, will make you see stars.

Since their hands are free to move, they can even bend them inward a bit to play with your breasts, nipples, or décolletage... and your hands, just like in the missionary position, are completely free to explore your loved one. For an even more intimate feeling, they can wrap their hands around your back and pull your body towards them, letting their hands glide along your body, kissing your neck, and having an intimate, tantric experience.

Want to add even more sensation and end with a vibrating, orgasmic climax? Even more exciting: try a couples' vibrator, like the We-Vibe Sync, for both internal and external vibration during sex.

When to use the CAT sex position

Forget the "quick and furious" sex that porn stars present as the norm. This position requires patience, practice, and a different mindset. Instead of rushing to orgasm, the CAT position focuses on slow, subtle movements that gradually build towards orgasm. It starts with slow, repetitive movements that only become steady when you're almost at your peak.

This position can be a bit frustrating for your partner (or both of you) at first, as it requires a slow and steady rocking that gently leads to a powerful orgasm. Therefore, this position is best suited for romantic sex with a committed partner, tantric spiritual sex, and long lovemaking sessions rather than quick sex.

Given the focus on clitoral stimulation rather than the G-spot, it doesn't matter if your partner has a small or large penis. Whatever the size, your clitoris will be in seventh heaven, proving that it really is the motion of the ocean, not the size of the boat. However, if your partner is a bit smaller in stature, they might find it difficult to stay in and deep penetration might not be possible... but this position is all about your pleasure, so let them know you'll definitely return the favor later.

If you're still wondering how great the CAT position is, know that scientists invented it and there are even several studies demonstrating how easy and pleasurable this position is for people with a clitoris. You can't deny that this position is a hit.