1. Don't use a condom

You're in the middle of an intimate lovemaking session with your husband, enjoying the foreplay, when he suddenly pauses to put on a thin latex condom. Not exactly what you imagine when you watch porn.

But ladies, if a man insists on having sex without a condom and you're not comfortable with it, please run away. Unless it's been discussed beforehand or you want children, you should always have sex with a condom.

A condom not only protects you against unwanted pregnancy, but also against sexually transmitted diseases.

The reason porn actors in adult films almost never need to use condoms is because they have to be tested frequently. In Los Angeles, USA, sex workers are required to be tested every 30 days to have their names checked against a database that allows them to get film roles. However, Michael Weinstein, president of the AIDS Healthcare Foundation in Los Angeles, told ABC News: "No test can detect HIV from the moment of infection. There's always going to be an incubation period." Let that sink in for a moment.

3. Ejaculating on your face/breasts/buttocks

Cum facials are a popular part of porn, but... do women actually enjoy them? For some, it can be a bit humiliating when a man ejaculates on their face and other body parts. Furthermore, cum can be very difficult to remove from your hair once it dries. And it can feel quite slimy, so it might not be to everyone's taste. But if you enjoy bukkake, there's no reason to stop.

4. Women have to swallow

For some women, swallowing a man's semen can be pleasurable or even arousing. In pornographic films, you often see female actors excitedly waiting for their partners to climax, or helping their male counterparts reach orgasm and then swallowing his semen. In reality, however, the taste of semen isn't equally appealing to everyone, and some women complain that it triggers their gag reflex and makes them vomit.

5. Swearing and foul language

Using swear words, a form of submission and dirty talk, can be arousing for some because it resembles role-playing and is part of the sexual act. However, certain swear words can be demeaning to some, so it's wise to discuss this with your partner before trying something like this. Let them know your boundaries, and it's important to know theirs as well.

6. Using saliva as a lubricant

Another common element in porn is the use of saliva as lubricant or even as part of BDSM-like play. However, it must be said that spitting can come across as disrespectful, as people usually spit to show contempt or disgust. And in case it wasn't clear enough: saliva is a terrible—truly terrible—lubricant. Saliva contains digestive enzymes and is simply not enough to keep someone lubricated for long periods of time during sex. Do yourself a favor and invest in some lubricant!

7. Crazy positions like "the pretzel"

Repeat after us: Pornography was invented to imitate fantasies.

There are a few… interesting poses, like the pretzel. You know, the one with the girl's legs behind her head? Yeah, those were created specifically for the camera. The thing about porn directors is that they're always looking for the best angles and they're paid to figure out what porn viewers want to see and then deliver that footage. On set, porn actors are often asked to change positions, and what you ultimately see might have been filmed in several stages before being stitched together at the end.

8. Quick and easy anal sex

As we mentioned in the previous point, porn directors are always looking for the best camera angles and are paid to figure out what viewers want to see. Porn stars, on the other hand, help viewers believe in that fantasy by acting it out. They, too, are paid handsomely for this. For those who haven't tried it yet: anal sex can be painful if you don't do it right. It does require some preparation, such as removing feces and starting small—meaning his penis isn't the first thing that should go into your anus unprepared. Of course, porn leaves out all these details and makes it look easier than it is.

9. Orgasm without help

We know the idea of ​​having an orgasm with your partner sounds romantic, but the chances of it happening the way it does in porn are slim. Female porn stars often orgasm during vaginal penetration, but a 2017 study found that only 6% of women in that study almost always experienced an orgasm during vaginal intercourse. So not only is it rare for women to consistently orgasm from vaginal stimulation, but female porn stars might also be faking it. The fact is, most women stimulate their clitoris to achieve orgasm.

10. Easy trios

Finally, the elusive threesome scenes. Here, too, porn serves a fantasy and doesn't reflect reality. Planning a threesome takes a lot of time. Pornography easily leads you to believe that threesomes and other forms of group sex are hassle-free, but in reality, you need to ensure everyone involved is clean, consents, and practices safe sex.

Furthermore, if your partner blindfolds you and makes you think you're having sex with him without telling you that you're actually doing it with another man (meaning you didn't consent to a threesome), that man can be charged with rape and your partner can also be arrested.