4 Tips from a Stripper to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Want to spice up your sex life? Then find out what turns your partner on and do it! Who knows better what excites men than a stripper? While fantasies and desires can be very specific, they often also relate to general male desires. Most men are visual creatures and enjoy various visual stimuli, but that doesn't mean you have to invite strangers into your bedroom. Be creative and try to make his fantasies a reality. You can learn how to be amazing in bed just by listening to what turns your partner on. Building intimacy in a relationship doesn't have to be difficult. Try these tried-and-true, stripper-approved, creative tips to liven things up.

1. Take the Initiative

What men really want in a woman is the knowledge that you want him as much as he wants you. That's one way to build a healthy relationship. Build sexual tension throughout the day with sexy texts, or send him spontaneous photos that radiate your desire for him. It doesn't have to be explicit; just give him enough to build sexual tension. You're probably already taking some selfies, so why not send him one that screams: I WANT YOU? Then take the initiative and conquer him when you're finally together. Be a little more assertive. Men want to feel desired too. Tell him which parts of his body excite you the most and pursue him with the same drive he pursues you with.

2. Reinvent Yourself

You might just catch your man glancing at that brunette walking by. That's because men love variety. You can spice things up in the bedroom by taking advantage of this. Don't be afraid to reinvent yourself. It can be something simple, like dyeing your hair a different color or changing your makeup style. Put on a sexy costume and role-play. Maybe you'll enjoy it as much as he does. Create the fantasy that he's experiencing something new, and you'll have him all to yourself.

3. Move Your Body

You've probably seen videos online of girls dancing, twerking, or climbing a stripper pole. Your man might lie and say he doesn't want to know anything about that, but men actually find those provocative dance moves attractive. You can take a twerking or pole dancing class in your free time and learn super hot moves that will drive him wild. Your man won't give a strip club a second glance if he has a private dancer at home.

4. Stimulate His Other Senses

While men are genetically wired to link sexual desire to visual stimuli, that doesn't mean he can't be aroused by his other senses. There are countless ways to pamper your boyfriend. Try blindfolding your partner, and you're guaranteed to put a smile on his face. Mystery and tension work just as well for men as they do for women. Gently caress his skin with a feather duster while whispering in his ear. Ignite his arousal with your scent. Challenge his imagination to guess which body part is rubbing against his chest.

Ask him to tell you what really turns him on. But be careful: don't ask your man to reveal his fantasies if you can't handle the answer. The goal is to find out what excites him so you can provide it. Don't judge; respect your partner. It's reassuring to know that you can build intimacy in your relationship with a good dose of old-fashioned communication.