If you aren’t hip to your Broad City or don’t enjoy porn, you might not know that pegging is a huge trend right now.

Pegging typically means a woman-identifying individual with a strap-on dildo anally penetrating a man-identifying individual, though people of any gender might call using a strap-on on a receptive partner pegging. I love this trend because it means heterosexual cis men are growing out of the idea that anything near their butts makes them gay.

Hooray for people getting comfortable with their bodies and allowing themselves pleasure!

Why Pegging Feels Good

Welcome to the fastest anatomy lesson ever! Like the G-spot for women, men have a “P-spot,” and guess where it is? What, what, it’s in the butt!

The prostate gland, found about two inches inside the anus toward the front, is responsible for making semen creamy and is also super pleasurable. Prostate stimulation can even be referred to as “milking” the prostate.

How to Peg a Man (or a receptive partner of any gender)

Pegging is most commonly done with a strap-on and dildo, but it can also be done with an anal toy—harnessed or not. I own a harness and paired it with a realistic (but on the thin side) dildo.

For the best anal sex, make sure to go through all the usual warm-up steps. Make sure your partner is ready, and don’t make the dildo the first thing to enter! Have your partner use the restroom and an enema or anal douche if they like—this is important! It will make them more comfortable and will likely save you some mess.

When you’re ready to play, use one finger, then two, then work up to a toy. Make sure to use plenty of lube and when your partner feels ready for it. Add some extra lube to the dildo and to them. Get behind your partner and have them bend over and spread their cheeks. Using your hand (even if you have a harness) slowly but also smoothly guide the dildo into their butt. Have them take deep breaths—especially if it’s a new sensation for them. Ask them what they want and give them more/deeper/faster if they tell you to.

My Honest Review of Pegging

My partner really enjoyed being pegged, and it’s always satisfying to make your partner happy. If only for their pleasure, I would absolutely try pegging again.

From my own experience, I’d say it’s important to prep beforehand. Make sure your partner has taken care of things down there before diving in, as that might make the event even more daunting than if everything were clean.

I would also recommend having some kind of insertable dildo or butt plug for yourself—unlike having an actual penis, being the one doing the pegging isn’t immediately pleasurable.

There is certainly a bit of a learning curve, as someone who doesn’t have a penis and therefore has no idea how to operate one. Maneuvering and diving in and out might take some practice, even with a well-fitting harness, but that can be part of the fun!