So you meet a new lover, and they're everything you could ever want: sexy, compassionate, funny, smart... the whole package. You hit it off, and you start kissing, and you think, "Wow, this is happening"—and it happens, it happens. You start touching, your shirt comes off, their shirt comes off, then their bra, then their pants—and then you realize... their dicks are HUGE.

Maybe it's long. Maybe it's wide. Even more intimidating—maybe it's both. You have a moment where you pause and think, "This is a real pornstar dick. I can't handle it. What the hell am I supposed to do with this?!" How can anyone handle such a big dick?

First things first: take a deep breath. Big dicks come to partners of all shapes and sizes. Previous pseudoscience has tried to link dick size to shoe size or height, and it's all proven false. The only thing science says can predict dick size is the size of your index finger relative to your ring finger. (Pretty wild, right?) But unless you check the size of your partner's index finger (*cue awkward conversation about why you're looking at their hands*), you won't know until you're right there when their pants come off. Let me tell you, there's no need to turn around and run. With a little knowledge and a few tips, you'll be working that extra-large dick like a pro in no time.

How does a big penis fit inside me?

Having sex with a large penis doesn't have to be an acrobatic feat or cause anxiety. There are several things you can do to comfortably take a large cock or give a blowjob to a well-endowed partner. With the right foreplay, arousal, and relaxation—plus the right moves, sex positions, and techniques to keep you comfortable—you can take a large cock much more comfortably and easily.

Remember, however, that every body is different, and both vaginas and penises come in different sizes. If you experience any pain, always stop. Pain is your body's signal that an injury might be imminent—so it's important to listen to your body's signals and not push yourself too hard. You can always come back and adapt with new techniques in the future! If you feel discomfort, you can pause, slow down, add lubricant, or return to foreplay and arousal while your vaginal muscles relax. Let your body warm up naturally at its own pace!

Some people will remind you that your vagina can literally push out a baby, so it's possible for it to expand to accommodate larger penises. Yet, your body produces hormones to help... and there are still complications like tearing. Every vagina has a different amount of "stretch," so to speak, and some partners will simply be "too big" to fit in completely. It's important not to push yourself beyond your limits and to recognize your body's signs of pain and discomfort. It might just not be the right fit—and that's okay! There are plenty of other activities you can do besides penetration to find pleasure.