Foreplay is much more than just preparing for sex. It's about creating a deep connection with yourself and your partner, discovering the many ways our bodies can experience pleasure. Often, it's not an appetizer, but for many, the main course!
There are endless foreplay ideas that can take your play to the next level, simply by exploring new sensations and desires with your partner. If you're just learning how to give a blowjob or go down on someone, you can incorporate some of those techniques into your play—or maybe you're wondering how to improve your play with new techniques, or what the best foreplay sex looks like!
Whether you're giving or receiving (or both), here's how to make foreplay something you and your partner crave every time.
Try it yourself
If you want to feel comfortable with foreplay, you also have to feel comfortable with yourself. That's right. This means touching yourself. Like, actually touching yourself. Masturbation even has benefits you can truly enjoy if you surrender to it.
Just start by gently touching yourself and then move on. If you feel comfortable with this, you can use it as foreplay. There's something sexy about someone touching themselves, so if you're not sure what to do with them, think about what you can do to yourself to turn them on.
Feel sexy in lingerie
Lingerie that helps you feel super sexy and aroused can make a huge difference if you're feeling insecure or uncomfortable about foreplay. Open bras, lingerie sets, and the like will definitely make an impact and heighten your arousal, even before you reach the bedroom or the sheets.
Buy something special for yourself from our favorite lingerie stores and show it to your partner, or just look at your reflection to see what a babe you are. You'll be amazed at how seeing you in something so skimpy is enough to excite both you and them.
Use toys
If you want to spice things up a bit, consider using accessories to enhance the sensation. There's a wide variety of toys, from more mundane items like feathers, massage oil, and sensual bath bombs, to more kinky accessories like paddles, cuffs, and blindfolds, that you can bring into the bedroom to heighten your sensations and build excitement.
Take some time to browse our sex toy webshop and see what piques your interest, then go from there.
Practice
Practice makes perfect, and your partner will be happy to help if needed. If you want to try something, tell your partner. If it doesn't work, move on. There's no shame in that!
For many, the idea of toe sucking and foot rubbing is incredibly arousing, and there are countless ways to explore this common kinky experience. Foreplay doesn't have to start in the bedroom – try sending your partner some naughty pictures of their feet while they're at work to test the waters, and then see what they like later.
Take sex lessons
Strip clubs, gyms, and dance studios are popular all over the US, so grab a few friends and take a pole dancing class. These classes are designed for beginners and can give you the confidence you need to impress your significant other. Even if you don't show off your moves in the bedroom, just being in touch with your own sensuality can make you feel like a sex kitten as you slink across the bed.
There are even lessons on foreplay itself and how to please your partner with your hands or mouth.
Do some research
As mentioned above, hesitation about foreplay sometimes stems from a lack of knowledge. If you're truly unsure what to do, do some research. If you feel uncomfortable with something you or your partner enjoy, like role-playing, explore it further.
There's always more information available to help you learn exactly what to do and find others who enjoy similar activities. Sometimes just knowing you have nothing to be ashamed of is enough to make you feel more comfortable with the act.
Talk to your partner
It might not sound like a conversation you'd want to have, but communication with your partner is always essential. If you're unsure what type of foreplay would interest you or your partner, talk to them about it. Let them know your interests. This way, you'll find out what they enjoy and how they like it.
You can also talk about your likes and dislikes to ensure you're both on the same page. When you openly communicate about your thoughts and fears in the bedroom, you'll have a more enjoyable and confident boudoir experience.
Foreplay should be exciting and enjoyable, intensifying the buildup and sensation, whether you're giving or receiving it. It's a chance to explore your desires (and your partner's) and each other's bodies while heightening all your senses. There's truly nothing to be afraid of when it comes to foreplay—just saying you want to try something and giving it your all can be incredibly sexy for your partner!
